My two-year-old daughter managed to take a four-hour nap
today. All parents know what this means
– it means that I was in for a long night because there was no way she was
falling asleep anywhere near her 8 PM bedtime.
My solution to this was to take us both Christmas
shopping after dinner. I had been meaning to go to 2nd and Charles, a store that sells used books mostly, but also DVDs, CDs, and even
musical instruments and toys. I
think it is my new favorite store as I have always found a home in big
bookstores (a dying entity), and most importantly, it is eco-shopping at its
finest! (Buying used anything lessens
the impact on the Earth.)
When I was done there, the Tuesday Morning next door lured
me in. (Ooo, pretty lights.) We browsed the aisles.
“Mommy, a kitty,” A. exclaimed, spotting the stuffed animals. I handed a soft and squishy yellow plush cat to her.
“Okay, but you
know the rule. You can carry it around
while we shop, but when it’s time to go, it stays here.”
“Okay,” she said merrily. (I’ve trained her well on this, believe me,
for my sanity and my bank account’s sake.)
Two minutes later, she picks up a pink bag
with a penguin on it. “Okay, you can
carry it, but we are not taking it home.”
Then a Cat in the Hat puzzle. Then a mug. Then a sip cup. Then a jewelry box. Then a princess-y something.
We received many a smile and some “she’s so cute” due to A's delight in just about every little thing in the
store. By the time we reached the cash
register, she had traded out everything except for a pink “ballerina outfit” as
she called it. I waited in line as she
chanted, “Mommy, I love this pink ballerina dress. Mommy.
This ballerina dress is so pretty. Mommy. It is pink with a heart on it.”
I (utilizing a very important parenting skill) have learned
to tune this sort of thing out -- this chanting of “I want, I want, I
want.” Dutifully, I hummed back, “Mmm-hmmm. But we are not taking it home. You can ask Santa for it if that's what you want.”
The line was really taking too long at that point. A woman checking out smiled again at us. I
shook my head playfully smiling, insinuating, “Kids. You know.”
I then paid for my item and said, “Okay, it’s time to give the lady
the costume. Remember you can always ask
Santa for it.” A. obeyed, and we were almost successfully out the door…
Until, the smiley woman asked the cashier for the
dress. Then the smiley woman bent down
to A’s height, holding the dress up for her, and said, “Merry Christmas,
sweetheart.”
Then she stood up, and somewhat shyly said to me, “I don’t have any children to buy for this
year, so you know, I just wanted to give that to her.”
“Wow, thank you so much, “ I said, truly touched. I directed A. to say “thank you” too, which
she did. (I think we were both a little
dumbfounded actually.)
We took a few steps towards the door. I turned to thank her again, the reality of the act settling in. This time I asked
her her name, and I introduced A. and myself.
We all said merry Christmas again….really meaning it…and both smiling even bigger.
And I tell you what.
That simple act. That random
act. That kind act from this one woman
in a store in the middle of Birmingham, Alabama, was such a true one. This small gesture had so much power! It’s going to sound corny no matter how I
write it -- but driving home, I knew I had been touched by the Christmas
spirit. Really. I felt downright giddy, with a little jingle
bell tingle inside of me. I was just
smiling! I said a prayer for the
lady, that she sincerely have a merry Christmas, and I also asked for
opportunities to pay this little-act-but-huge-kindness forward. I want everyone to feel this feeling!
Because there really is so much kindness in the world. So much good.
It seems to get muddled in all of our humanness sometimes, and that’s
okay. I have faith in it. I have faith in humankind. There are just so many good people.
Santa is real. Corny
again, but he really does live inside each and every one of us. So when we tell our children to believe in
Santa, what we are really saying is:
Believe in Good. Believe in
Joy. Believe in Generosity, Kindness,
and Love.
In the end, we are telling them to believe in the good in
themselves…and the good in others.
No matter how much darkness we have to endure while on this
planet, we can all rest assured: Santa
Lives.
It’s up to us to keep him alive, for there will ALWAYS be good. So keep believing.
Merry Christmas, sweet people! May random acts of kindness find you this
holiday season and beyond….